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Submitted by: H.L. Archer
The biggest mistake you can make, after a breakup is becoming obsessed with getting your ex boyfriend back. It will make you boring to your friends because all you can talk about is him. Your friends will sympathize with you and want to help, but soon they will start to avoid you. Being obsessed with him will cause you to lose not only your friends but your ex boyfriend as well.
Your health will suffer from not eating and loss of sleep and you will be an emotional mess. You will also chase your ex and when he sees you in this condition, he will be glad he broke up with you. Your ex will see you as a weak, desperate person and not one to be counted on in a crisis. Is this any way to go about getting back the man you love? Of course it isn’t.
Instead of chasing him, you should be ignoring him. When he broke up with you he was wanting to be alone so he could think. You should respect his wishes. Trying to force your will on him will only make him pull farther away. People always want what they cannot have, and you need to make your ex boyfriend think that he can no longer have you. That might sound strange, since by breaking up with you he was showing he did not want you anymore.
He might have broken up with you for several reasons. But if you had been having a good relationship, it was not because he does not want you anymore. He might have become bored or he might have felt unappreciated. In either case, you should be giving him plenty of space. Staying away from him will make you much more attractive to him than crowding him. Since men fall in love from a distance, the more space you give him, the sooner he will realize he still loves you.
The longer he is away from you, the better you will seem to him. He will start remembering your good traits and the cause of the breakup will fade away. By ignoring him, you are giving him time to realize his mistake in losing you. It will take about a month of having no contact with him, in order for him to begin to feel this way. So, you need to be patient and give him time to miss you.
When about a month has went by since he has last heard from you, send him an email. Do not call him because you might start crying. Make the email short and do not beg. Simply say that you thank him for the good times you had together and it is a pity that it had to end this way. Wish him well in the future and end the email. Then give him a while to think this over and he will be ready to open communication with you again. Soon after that, you will be getting your ex boyfriend back for good.
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